Proverbs 31 says in verse 11 “The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.” In verse 23, it talks about her husband being known in the gates where he sits among the elders. He was obviously a wise man that studied the Scriptures. Otherwise he would not be welcome among the elders. “Through understanding is an house builded; and by understanding it is established:” (Prov. 24:3) I know that we so often look at Proverbs 31 as being about the virtuous woman. But what about her husband? What I get from the chapter, is that she feels secure and loved. Her husband trusts her. That speaks volumes. He praises her in verse 28. Don’t you feel happy and content when someone praises you? So I think that much of the success of the virtuous woman is due to having a strong, godly, wise husband.
So the big question is, would the woman of Proverbs 31 have been virtuous if her husband hadn't been what HE needed to be? Big question, huh? So you can see just how important it is to marry the right man. Don't think you can change him into what YOU want him to be, or what he needs to be. He needs to already have that determination to be a godly man before you consider marrying him.
Here’s something I found interesting. When I looked up the word virtuous, I found that it has a connection with the word valiant. Now, I’ve never heard of a man being called virtuous, but when I did a word search on the word “valiant” I discovered some very interesting connections. The word valiant means “1. Primarily, strong; vigorous in body; as a valiant fencer. 2. Brave; courageous; intrepid in danger; heroic; as a valiant soldier. 3. Performed with valor; bravely conducted; heroic; as a valiant action or achievement; a valiant combat.” So I guess that the counterpart for virtuous woman would be valiant man. A woman’s husband should be her hero. Ladies often dream about her knight in shining armor, and I’m discovering that that may be more biblical then most people think. Sure, you will never find a perfect man, but he should strive to be strong physically (Prov. 20:29), not as a means to boast about, but being able to protect and work hard to provide for his family. He should be willing to learn, increase in knowledge, and be teachable (Prov. 1:1-7). He should study his Bible (2 Tim. 2:15). He should have endurance, and stand firm on what he believes to the point of being stubborn (2 Tim. 2:3). He should have a good testimony among believers as well as in the world (1 Tim. 4:12). He should be respectful not only to his elders, but people his age as well. (1 Tim. 5:1-2).
I'm very thankful to my dad for being the wise counselor he needs to be, and for encouraging me to do this study. I hope it enlightens all who read it as much as it has helped me.
Thanks so much, Vicki, for allowing me to guest post on your lovely blog!
I love this, Kristen! This post has certainly been edifying for me! Make sure you all check out her lovely blog! Thanks again for posting, Kristen!