Wednesday, June 13, 2012

The Proverbs 31 Husband {Guest Post by Kristen}

"Kristen is a 20 year old stay at home daughter. She blogs over at True Elegance, makes and sells jewelry, and is a photographer. Kristen homeschools her brother, cooks, and budgets the groceries in order to prepare for being a housewife someday. She helps in her family's ministry, "A Pastor's Friend". They encourage and help pastors of small churches. Kristen enjoys playing the piano, singing, writing, and reading lots of mysteries."

Proverbs 31 says in verse 11 “The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.” In verse 23, it talks about her husband being known in the gates where he sits among the elders. He was obviously a wise man that studied the Scriptures. Otherwise he would not be welcome among the elders. “Through understanding is an house builded; and by understanding it is established:” (Prov. 24:3) I know that we so often look at Proverbs 31 as being about the virtuous woman. But what about her husband? What I get from the chapter, is that she feels secure and loved. Her husband trusts her. That speaks volumes. He praises her in verse 28. Don’t you feel happy and content when someone praises you? So I think that much of the success of the virtuous woman is due to having a strong, godly, wise husband.

So the big question is, would the woman of Proverbs 31 have been virtuous if her husband hadn't been what HE needed to be? Big question, huh? So you can see just how important it is to marry the right man. Don't think you can change him into what YOU want him to be, or what he needs to be. He needs to already have that determination to be a godly man before you consider marrying him.

Here’s something I found interesting. When I looked up the word virtuous, I found that it has a connection with the word valiant. Now, I’ve never heard of a man being called virtuous, but when I did a word search on the word “valiant” I discovered some very interesting connections. The word valiant means “1. Primarily, strong; vigorous in body; as a valiant fencer. 2. Brave; courageous; intrepid in danger; heroic; as a valiant soldier. 3. Performed with valor; bravely conducted; heroic; as a valiant action or achievement; a valiant combat.” So I guess that the counterpart for virtuous woman would be valiant man. A woman’s husband should be her hero. Ladies often dream about her knight in shining armor, and I’m discovering that that may be more biblical then most people think. Sure, you will never find a perfect man, but he should strive to be strong physically (Prov. 20:29), not as a means to boast about, but being able to protect and work hard to provide for his family. He should be willing to learn, increase in knowledge, and be teachable (Prov. 1:1-7). He should study his Bible (2 Tim. 2:15). He should have endurance, and stand firm on what he believes to the point of being stubborn (2 Tim. 2:3). He should have a good testimony among believers as well as in the world (1 Tim. 4:12). He should be respectful not only to his elders, but people his age as well. (1 Tim. 5:1-2).

I'm very thankful to my dad for being the wise counselor he needs to be, and for encouraging me to do this study. I hope it enlightens all who read it as much as it has helped me.

Thanks so much, Vicki, for allowing me to guest post on your lovely blog!

I love this, Kristen! This post has certainly been edifying for me! Make sure you all check out her lovely blog! Thanks again for posting, Kristen!


  1. Wow, interesting post Kristen! I really enjoyed reading this. :)

  2. Your father sounds like a wise and God fearing man, and Lord knows the world needs more men like that!

    I really enjoyed your post. I learned something new concerning the word valiant/valor as the male counterpart of virtuous. Some Bible translations do use the word virtuous to describe men. It just depends on the translation. Jesus was a virtuous man. He said, "Somebody touched me; for I know that virtue is gone out from me." He had to have been virtuous in order to lose virtue. Can't lose what you don't have.

    It's so refreshing to hear a young woman talking the characteristics of a valiant husband. Christians women are always studying the Proverbs 31 woman, and that's fine. However, it's also very important to know what the Bible says about...

    Proverbial Man of Valiant Character
    Reprove a wise man and he will love you. Pro 9:8
    Give instruction to a wise man and he will be still wiser, Teach a righteous man and he will increase his learning. Pro 9:9
    The generous man will be prosperous, And he who waters will himself be watered. Pro 11:25
    A good man will obtain favor from the LORD. Pro 12:2
    A wise man is he who listens to counsel. Pro 12:15
    A prudent man overlooks an insult. Pro 12:16
    Every prudent man acts with knowledge. Pro13:16
    He who walks with wise men will be wise. Pro 13:20
    A good man leaves an inheritance to his children's children. Pro 13:22
    The sensible man considers his steps. Proverbs 14:15
    A wise man is cautious and turns away from evil. Pro 14:16
    He who is slow to anger has great understanding. Pro 14:29
    A man of understanding walks straight. Pro 15:21
    What is desirable in a man is his kindness. Pro 19:22
    A righteous man who walks in his integrity-- How blessed are his sons after him. Pro 20:7
    A wise man scales the city of the mighty And brings down the stronghold in which they trust. Pro 21:22
    A wise man is strong, And a man of knowledge increases power. Pro 24:5
    For a righteous man falls seven times, and rises again, But the wicked stumble in time of calamity. Pro 24:16


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